More on feelings...
Our senses influence how we perceive the world. Generally speaking,
if you are a visual person, your need for closeness will be satisfied by the sight of a
person close to you. If, on the other hand, you are a person who prefers touch, then
only physical contact can satisfy her. The same applies to the other senses.
Considering this, it is easy to see that each of us in a relationship is looking for what
will satisfy our need for closeness. It is also logical that the object of our interest is
not always guided by the same criterion when choosing a partner.
The ideal situation is when the relationship is created by people with the same
preferences.
But ideals are hard to come by in life. This is where a lot of relationship problems
come from. They consist in the feeling of a lack of understanding by the partner
and various types of emotional barriers.
However, if two people want to be together, they should try to understand each
other's needs and strive to meet them together. It has to be a mutual exchange.
The relationship will not last if one of the parties feels taken advantage of in any way.
Example: If a man is visual, he needs to see his partner. If a woman is auditory,
it is enough for her to hear her partner's voice. And the problem is ready. She will
want to talk to him and listen to him, and he will seek meetings, not necessarily
conducive to conversation. If they go to the movies together, she'll feel lonely
because she can't talk to him, and he'll feel bad because he won't be able to look at
her freely. They will both leave the movie dissatisfied. The situation is analogous
with every other sense. On the other hand, people who favor touching will be
satisfied with the meeting in the cinema, because they can hold their partner's hand
during the movie. It is so simple and causes so many problems.
