Social engineering

 

More on feelings...
With a bit of social engineering

To know your partner's preferences, you just need to observe, listen to what he 

says and how he says it. Most often, a person who prefers the sense of sight 

speaks using metaphors relatedto this sense. You will hear from her the words: 

"I see that you understand me", "It's clear to me", "The day is gray", etc. She could 

say the same things in a completely different way if she were, for example, an 

auditory learner. He will then say: "I hear understanding in your voice", 

"It sounds obvious to me", "It's quiet outside", etc. The meaning of these statements 

is similar, but the metaphors are built with different words and described with 

different words. senses. Remember what words you use often. Do you already 

know which sense dominates you? 

So let's go further. 

Recall what metaphors your partner uses. Are they similar to yours? Or are the 

same feelings expressed in different words? Think about these words and think 

about what sense they indicate.

If you're having a hard time with this, your partner may be a mixed type. This has its 

advantages, because there is a good chance that you have some common ground 

where it is easier to reach an agreement. Now it's time to show your feelings. 

The situation is very similar. Think about what you miss the most in a relationship. 

It can be time spent together with a partner, it can be honest conversations or help 

in everyday duties. Do you already know? This is your way of showing affection. 

With these things, you show your love to others. And that's what you expect from 

your partner in a relationship, because that's the only way he can prove his love to 

you. Simple truth. 

But what if your partner needs something else? Think about it. What does your 

partner most often accuse you of? Is it the lack of time spent together? Or lack of 

sensitivity? Or maybe you haven't bought her flowers for a long time, which she 

likes so much? Or maybe he accuses you of not being interested in his work or 

passion? And here is the answer to your problems. 

If you need attention and your partner, for example, physical contact, you both feel 

that something is missing in your relationship. But how to change it? It is very easy. 

Give your partner what he needs. It is not difficult. It only requires a little bit of good 

will and understanding the other person's needs. If you know what your partner 

lacks in a relationship, try to give it to him. 

The effects will exceed your wildest expectations. You'll soon find out.

At the beginning, a small gesture is needed. Then another. Your partner will quickly 

notice the difference and will want to reciprocate. This is certain because this is how 

the principle of reciprocity works. It is one of the most basic rules that govern human 

behavior in society. 

Take a moment. How do you feel when someone helps you with a task? It could be 

a neighbor who holds the door for you when your hands are full. Yes. You are 

grateful to him. Next time you will do something similar for him. This is the principle 

of reciprocity. Simple truth. And isn't your partner more important to you? Why not 

start with a small gesture? Just so much and so much. The secret of a successful 

relationship lies in understanding yourself and your partner. 

A relationship, like any other interpersonal relationship, requires mutual benefit. 

Each party must feel that they are giving and receiving love equally. Only then is 

there harmony. 

However, it requires constant commitment from both people. A relationship based 

on understanding the partner's needs will always be successful if the other party 

does the same. But it's hard to find balance in life. Therefore, interpersonal 

relationships are constantly changing and require constant interest from partners.